It's too hard sometimes

[bluerain]

Ok Mark, I have been super busy, congrats on the job! I think that I would just mention it in passing. But, dont be surprised if she balks. And if she does, dont engage it.

This brings me to your question earlier about whether you should be consolling her. I say no, not consolling, but validating instead. She very likely just needs you to listen. Say that you understand that shes upset- if she starts to flip out because of the job then you need to just say that you understand that shes upset, and why shes upset. Dont try to defend yourself, just let her know that you recognize her feelings. Dont let her abuse you either! Seriously, this is a big one, if she starts attacking you, get off the phone, leave the room, whatever you need to do.