Is it time to go gucci?

[Dudess]

If he really is as dense as he makes out to be he doesn't deserve someone like you.

He is emotionally dense, which was hard for me to grasp because he is really quite brilliant in many other ways.

From what you describe, he sounds like a man who just wants you around to be his: maid, servant, personal and financial assistant. He wants all that, and his freedom to chase fantasies.

That sure was not the marriage I signed up for - nor the vision he relayed to me when trying to convince me to marry him. It's the old bait and switch.

You're doing well to move out and get him to prove himself - before his health fails and you end up being his nurse too. You're too young for all that.

As far as the trip to Europe goes... been there, done that. Just old dirty cities falling apart with too much traffic. Walking around and waiting for an old fart to catch up wouldn't have been much fun.

If he were treating me well, that he is an 'old fart' who can't walk too far or fast, wouldn't matter to me. We used to have a lot of fun together. I knew I was marrying a man much older than me and was prepared to accept what might come with it. I am very loyal to those who are loyal to me.

You're going to rock his fantasy world when he returns to find an empty home.

I wonder . . . It has occured to me that he might be relieved, even happy, and that his actions are a passive-aggressive way of getting me to leave him.

Maybe you should burn something for him.. "Dear H...I was thinking of you also, I lit your belongings on fire." lol J/K!

LOL. One of my first thoughts was telling him I lit a candle for him too - underneath the voodoo doll I made of him.

If he asks for a ride back from the airport... agree to it... then conveniently forget. When he calls to find out where you are, don't answer.

Oh, and please DON'T clean the house before you leave.

So I guess you would say I shouldn't leave a nice cassarole for him to pop in the oven either huh?

If you leave, OK, that is good. This other stuff, aside from the comedic value, you probably want to avoid. Being vindictive does nothing to make the world a better place. Burning bridges only pollutes the water in the river below.

I agree with you Down, and I doubt anyone was serious. It's theraputic to release a bit of anger by bandying about fun revenge scenarios. It doesn't mean I, or anyone else, is serious about it. Breakaway does not condone arson!