Can I save my marriage?

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Thanks so much everybody! I really appreciate your kind words and advice. I love coming on here only to be uplifted my you! You make me feel so much better about my situation even if I'm not. So thank you! My sis in law called this morning to arrange a time when we could go to the craft fair and my H was there so he got on the phone and overheard when we were going and told me he was going to take the boys to the hockey game which is in the next building to the fair. He then went on to ask me to come over after I'm done at the fair and watch the hockey game with him and the boys! Yay! His first attempt at asking me to actually do a family activity together! I'm thrilled!

Lostforwords, I do work out on a regular basis. I'm still trying to lose my baby weight from our second child. But with all the stress plus my regular exercise, I've been able to lose 15 pound since he dropped the bomb. He comments on it all the time. He just commented on how good I look the other day. He asked how much I lost and i told him and he was very surprised. I only have 10 more pounds to go to get to my "pre-baby" weight! Yay! I agree working out is the best, I will continue to do it!

Robx, your analogy with the squirrel is crazy true! It is the best thing I've heard in a long time. It is now my new motto. I am going to see my H as a squirrel. Let's just hope I don't get to used to it and next time we're intimate I'm picturing some fuzzy squirrel in bed with me...hehe...just kidding. But really I feel like it fits so perfectly with my situation. Thank you for the validation that I am doing the right things. I'm going to continue what I'm doing, cause its obviously working. I think there is just a small part of me that felt like once we had the talk about the changes, and the "future" talk about our home, and vehicles I just felt like it was his way of telling me he wants to come back home. So to then not talk to him yesterday was like what? Did that conversation really just happen? Or not? So that's where I'm at now, trying to realize that its not going to happen overnight. That he's not going to tell me all this good stuff and an hour later walk through the door with his suitcase. So I'm trying to accept right now that it still may take a while.