I think Jiji has made some solid points here and you should really think about them.
I also think that until W gets a court order to have you LEGALLY removed from your house, and the cop shows up to escort you away, do NOT leave... and if it ever comes up in conversation, tell her you have no intentions of leaving. (You may want to look this up in your DB book, but I would never, ever, ever voluntarily leave. If she wants to leave, fine you can't stop her, but the kids stay in their home).
Keep going. I think you are making excellent progress!! Happy, happy, happy!!!!
Corri
I have really thought on the points made by Jiji. These feeling of guilt will not go away overnight but hopefully they will eventually.
With regard to the house. I've talked to 4 attorneys. My attorney, my folk;s attorney, my grandmother's attorney and finally an attorney I used to throw a little business to. According to them, the only way a judge would make me move is if she went dirty. That is make a false claim of abuse. But to do that would drag the kids in. In the end, according to counsel, if it came down to it, I would get the house. I put down over $15,000 to her $1600.00 She made up a list of behavior and such. According to the female attorneys, I should have...well used it as toilet paper.
As far as the police are concerned, I come from a cop family here. Local, state and one federal. I've already arranged my back up in case she tries to involve the cop friends she has. In fact, I believe on of them has already been told what the deal is.
But... I don't want a war. I hope for peace but prepare for war.
