I couldn't make myself go to church with W and kids this am. I wanted to for the kids, but not with W. For me, the right thing this am was not to go.
I noticed this morning at breakfast (I did eat with W and the kids) that W is still wearing her wedding band. She has to have noticed I stopped wearing mine Friday. A bit surprised by that.
Even though I did not go to church, I read my Bible this morning and looked at some articles on D. I found this one on Dr. Charles Dobson's site (sorry for the non-religious, but there is some usefule information in there for you as well):
I plan to run a few errands this morning. I will take off just before W gets home. I will pick up a very vanilla anniversary card (tomorrow is anniv) and leave it for her just before leaving for work. I don't plan on writing much, if anything, in it. But, I don't want her to think I forgot.
I will then hit the gym for a workout.
S has a baseball game this afternoon, so I will have to put on my happy face and play like all is well to the outside world. I know, I don't have to be her friend. Just be there for the kids.
you're still doing what you would have done, why?
No card.
Yes you've forgotten.
She attributes little to no value to this marriage.
You keep attributing value to it.
You're pursuing her, she isn't pursuing you.
Appear to move on, it is making you a bad person or unthoughtful for not getting a card.
