One thing that is obvious to us is that our H's have come a long way in the manner in which they speak to us and the information they disclose. They actually have changed a lot. They aren't as distant. They are becoming forgiving with us.
He likes to be made of by you.
You have said it all in your closing line......
"The trust issue is just that H feels he has been hurt by me in the past and was unhappy. He is scared to trust me cos it'll just happen again"
All of our H's are feeling and believing the same. That is why it takes sooooooo long to change their opinions of us. It is truly very difficult. They check out of the marriage long before they leave and we have to add that time on. For most of us we don't know when that happened because we were wearing blinders to the problems.
Continue to treat him well. Especially during his days of recuperating. A thought I had, is to make him a casserole or a favorite meal and send it with one of the kids. A get well, ease his burden gesture.....no strings attached. You would do it for a friend, right? It will serve H to show you are caring and concerning and that is one thing we know they require lots of......
I dunno....it's an idea. I have done it a few times with H and the results were thankful. Thankful goes a long way, he's apt to be accepting. Then again.....it's a shot in the dark.
Take care (((((Cas))))), I hope you have a good week.
Sanderika
ME48/H48MLC T 33y M 28y S16 OW 8/7/05 Bomb 8/16/05 Sep 9/05 H f'd D 10/3/08 D pp'd 1/20/09,7/24/09,12/4/09 D dismissed 2/5/10 H served me D papers again 9/4/10 D dismissed 9/26/11
