Getting Un"Stuck" - Giving My Burden to God

[MrBond]

You may be right. I have been avoiding all R talks so I'll see how that goes.

This weekend was okay, we went out on Saturday to see my D's soccer game and took my youngest to Gymboree. Afterwards we left her back at her sister's place and I took my kids to my parent's place while I went out to a friend's wedding at night. She told me previously she didn't want to go.

Well when she called that night to say goodnight to my Ds, I told her where they were and to call them at my parent's place. I also slipped in the idea that I had a date with me. She was definitely not happy. She argued that she should have had the right to have the kids stay with her since I went out. For some reason I apologized and said that it was because my parents made plans to play with them and told her I had to go.

After a few minutes, I thought about it and thought that she was out of line. When the kids are with me, I can do whatever the heck I wanted to with them. The last time when she moved out, she did the same thing and made it seem like I was "controlling" the situation. I called her back and told her that I was sorry that she felt bad that the kids weren't with her, but that this was her decision to live this way. I told her that for the past year I've done nothing but treat her with love and respect and that she should stop trying to control the situation. All this is HER choice.

Then I hung up. Very different than how I acted to her before. I did feel empowered, and I'll see if that made any difference. Like MWD says, do something different.