BeingMe has hit it on the nail head. She's going through her own identity crisis right now and trying to find her wings. Also, you don't know just how much brain washing has been going on out there either. Leave her be. She'll come to you when she's ready to talk. Validate her feelings and love her from afar. I know it's difficult, but you have got to allow her to spread her wings a bit and one day soon, your little bird will return to the nest in your home.
Take care of yourself. Keep the focus on you for now and get yourself back up on your feet.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
