Thanks for your post. On the OM issue, I don't think one can ever truly know (without evidence) if there is an OM in the picture. Anything is possible. At this point, I would not be surprised by anything.
That said, I have looked where evidence would be, and I have watched her very closely. She leaves her laptop open, logged on and unprotected. Same goes for her blackberry. She is in no rush to move forward with a D (I know, not necessarily a definite indicator). She is not gone at strange times - he!!, she is hardly ever gone. She knows I can track her spending.
So, anything's possible, but I just don't see any evidence. I know one of our friends (soon to be ex W, likely) whom she is talking with is having an A. My "old" W would not be the type to have an A - but I know people do strange and unexpected things. So, I'm not placing any stock in that.
As far as continuing to try, I don't think I'm ready to give up, but my plan probably needs to change. The doing things for her plan isn't working. I think its time to get tougher.
My true belief is she is confused (depressed?) Andupsept about not being able to work and mad at me over a formerly successful business that we had to close. The thought that her biggest concern, and the foundation of our M to her apparently, seems to be $$$, sickens me. $ is certainly important, but it is NOT the foundation of a M. Foundation for a business partnership, yes, but not a M.
