And that's why you should set the boundary I described.

You're not controlling him or punishing him, you are setting a limit for yourself. When he really wants to come back to you, then he gets the privilege of your affection and intimacy.

Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."