clinging...this is true, every state is different. I'm from IL, as are you, so feel free to draw on my experience.

Me45 (D11 from 1st marriage)
W43 (D20 & D16 from 1st marriage)
M4
Bomb 6/16/09 W wants D
W moved out 8/29/09
I sent her D paperwork 9/25/09...I'm done