For what it's worth, when I told my H yesterday that I would not wait any longer if this is what he wants, I would go back to the UK and file, he went in to defence mode and said that I would have to get a second opinion on what I believed to be true as he said that he had checked and I would have to be home for a year before I could file. My sister has phoned a solicitor on my behalf and they definitely said a week is all that is required for me to be back in the country, but I have to be there. Of course, I don't want to file and I won't. It's good to see that H reacted that way and when I said to him "well, it's what you want isn't it?" he just said "long term, yes". I feel that lifts some pressure off me for a while.
Is this what your H is doing?? Playing for time and making you the fall guy?? I think that it is. I think that it is their little game. I feel that they carry enough guilt for breaking up the family and now it's our turn - they've been the bad cop and so now it's your turn, whichever way they can get us to shake it up and change the uniforms around.
Like you, I've never been to my H's place - don't even know where it is. I asked him about that yesterday and he said that he hadn't told me as I have previously threatened to go to his work to stir things and he wouldn't put it past me doing the same at his home. He also doesn't want me dropping off more of his stuff there ... I wouldn't go to H's unannounced either - I'm afraid of what I might see. My furniture with tramps clothes inside it - my photo frames with the bitch's face staring back out at me. *shudder*
For you, I know that's different - your H is not far from you and I guess that you know his address. Surely, the trust is that even with that knowledge, you haven't rocked up at all. Why do you think that he doesn't trust you?
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
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