Still getting nowhere fast....

[lost-n-Iowa]

MC does not say much about the blow ups. I am thinking that I am in the same boat as you, bunny, about having an MC the ignores the elephant in the room half the time.

My other problem with the MC is that we can only go about once a month or a month and a half. With H's work schedule, we have a hard time making appointments in advance and if we have to wait until closer to the time when we know H is coming home then we run into the problem that the MC may already be booked.

Since we started the MC in May, we have probably been there 3 times together, then I went twice without him, and he went once without me. We are not going enough to make a difference in my opinion.

Plus my H is starting to think that the MC is not helping us at all. I can agree to a point with this idea but I still think that without a councelor then we would be getting the D no matter what.

On a good note, my H has been in a better mood today. We were able to work most of the day together getting a little shed built for my horses. Only once we got into a disagreement. That was because he asked me to decide how i wanted something done. While I was deciding he walked away to do something else and it took him a bit of time. Since I was done deciding, I walked away to go do something else with a hay feeder. In the time that it took me to do my job (10 minutes)and walk back over to the original job, he had done it completely different. Anyway, we got into it a bit not becuase of what he had done but because he was blaming me. Said that I should have not walked away. I let him try what it was that he was doing and in the end it did not work his way, so he had to tear it apart and we ended up doing it my way.

Yes, I was smiling inside that I was right and he was wrong, but I made sure that I did not say anything to that effect and eventually he said that he was sorry that he had not called me over to ask me what it was that I had decided to do.

Chalk one up for me!!!

Went out for supper, short time at b-day party, then went road tripping on way home. Had a good night in all. I can only hope that it does not end there.

(Sorry it was a long post and a little bit of venting too)