Sorry i've been MIA this weekend - big week for me. Sounds like you're tired of the back and forth. I'm with you. I actually support distance. It's working for me - at least so that H can't affect my emotionas negatively anymore. I also am not obssessing as much on how to win him back.
And grieving. It's hard, but you must do it. Pull back and face the possibility of it ending and then when you are prepared for that you know you can handle anything.