You know what? I've been over on the Divorce Busting site for the last hour or so reading advice, etc. It seems that my advice to you is in direct conflict with what Michele advises you should do.
Now. Were I in your shoes, I'd be more inclined to follow her advice than mine, given that she's been doing this professionally now for somewhere around 20 years.
Soooo.... I shall respectfully bow out of your thread because I think, though I have good intentions, my advice may end up causing you more harm than good.
However, I will keep checking it to see how you are doing.
I wish you all the best.
Corri
Although your advice contradict what Michelle says, sometimes my heart tells me I should be following it. She once made a statement that made it sound as if she were surprised I wasn't cool with a D. I don't know to be honest which way I should go. I may use a modified DB thing. Her main theme in our recent arguments was I don't change for more than 2 weeks. I'm working on that and she also has said I have never apologized for hurting her with the SSM. However, she has said my apologies are crap. So how can I apologize when up against that. Contrary to book, I'm thinking of writing a letter of apology. Not one that says come back to me or anything like that.
Your other point about not wanting to DB today is well taken. It's hard to contain my feelings on this matter however. For months, I've been shut out of her new friends on the part time job world. I'm not sure they're the best for her. The kids even sense it and have commented. This big event is going down this weekend and they will be gone maybe from Saturday till Sunday. I also feel down because she seems to speak very well of this guy. Yes, I'm jealous. Maybe that's the plan. Who knows?
We'll see what happens when she gets home assuming she sits still long enough rather than jump out to help her buddy get his place ready.
