Desperation, this is so dissimilar to my situation that the only thing I can say for sure is find the toughest family law attorney in town and talk to him/her pronto.

Others will be along soon better and more detailed counsel, I'm sure.

Gardener

"My soul, be satisfied with flowers,
With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
Cyrano deBergerac