She could see all of the changes I had made and they were all positive, but too late for her.
That has a certain "ring" to what you are saying here. I see a woman who is looking down her nose, knowing that all these changes have been to get her back. It is as if she is clicking her tongue and shaking her head sadly at you and saying, "Too bad, too late".
If that is the message she is getting out of you making these changes....then you need to turn things around so that she sees & hears a different message. She needs to see a man who is changing for himself and no other reason. Until she feels a threat of losing you, her thinking will not change.
Sandi I miss your posts, thank you for participating here, you woke me up a long time ago on all of this and a woman's perspective is so important here, it's not enough for us guys to hear advice from guys but they need it from the women on these forums as well, if anything I would say it's even more important than what we can offer.
