Not wanting to be on this boat........

[Buffet]

****Warning Vent and feel bad for myself on this one****

today we went to a mutual friends kids birthday party. It was a blast they had a blow up princess castle for the little girl and all of the kids were inside the castle playing and having a great time. It got me thinking that a huge problem that we have had is since we have had our kid we do not go out anymore and hang with other couples and there really is no reason not to (until lately!) it felt so good to be around friends-and better yet friends who are all in the same place in life--married with kid or kids. Now every chance she gets the wife is running out with her single friend who I have mentioned before is beyond poison.
So....as we are having a great time wife says all of a sudden we have to go. Oh yeah, she and my son are going to her parents house to their fall party. I can go----if I want to. Um, no thanks W.
So we leave the b-day party and our little boy is screaming his head off begging to stay in the "jumpy house!" It was heartbreaking and I could not help but think to myself on the drive home how much his life is going to be, and in many ways already is effected by all of this crap.
Back to the parents thing, I had always had a pretty good relationship with her parents until around the birth of the baby. As mentioned in my first post we bought our home from her grandparents and that went horribly. Ever since the relationship has deteriorated. Last year her dad was having a MLC of his own and everyone in the family assumes he cheated on his wife, went on vacations with another women, went to the bar multiple times a week, lost his business, did not/could not find another job and got a couple a DUI's plus filed bankruptcy for i believe the 3rd time. However, when Wife came to me and said that her mom was thinking of leaving I said that she should work thru it if possible with the dad b/c they are married and have been for so long and the kids, family, etc-not to mention that marriage is important.
Fast forward a year my wife goes to her mom and dad and says that she is unhappy with things again alot has happened to us in the last 2 years (baby, my fathers death, house thing, new jobs, etc...) Her dad's advice------get a divorce lawyer and oh yeah by the way here I have a couple that I looked at that I can refer you to!!!???
Are you kidding me!? That is his advice, break up the marriage tuck tail and run after everyone put up with his Sh** for so long and no one ever threatened him. I guess it is not really relevant except that it is, b/c my Wife still looks up to her dad as if he can do no wrong. Things like this get me feeling down and I just want to throw in the towel, except.....I look at my little guys face and just cant quite do it-if things could somehow come together, if she would just attempt to work on this it could be better but now it just gets worse and worse every day and I am feeling like I have just been discarded and thrown away by her. It is like my usefulness to her is done, we got married and I helped her pay off some massive debt, gave her a wonderful son, and now when I have needed her the most she is not there for me.
It sucks and I know that this is not any worse than many peoples deals here but man what a punch in the gut everyday to have to live like this.