Hi Nell, I know what you mean about H being a good man and realizing that he must be hurting and lost to get to this place. That is what I have had to come to realize as well. Like you, H and I had lots of conversations in our 19 years of M about how much we abhorred A's and infidelity... about how we saw it destroy other families, etc. He had always been so reassuring that he knew he could never, ever do that... And here we are. I am still reeling. He swears it has only been an EA not PA, but I don't know what to believe anymore. I agree with Sanderika... for whatever my opinion is worth... lol. I have noticed consistently that when I am able to take all the pressure off and emphasize the good of our home, our family, our life... we make progress. Any talk of OW or R sets us back big time. Time and patience... so true.
