UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach

[brownidmom]

Hi, Nell. I have been a lurker in our thread for a while now, just never posted. I am in a down moment myself now just because of the reality of it all.

You know your H after 17 y of M, so you are probably right that his heart is not done, which is a good thing. Regardless of if you stay together or not, I believe that life after M is probably better if there is still caring involved, not by experience of course, just a hunch. I do see possibility in that your H is not happy in his current sitch. My advice, thought I can't seem to listen to myself all the time, would be to not bring up the R the next time you see each other and for as long as possible after that. He said he misses "home, not the house," Home means you and the cats. Do your best to let the anger out through hard work while you are alone and to be the most positive you can be while you are in contact with your H. You will feel better about it in the long run, I think.

Take care.

BIM