Firstly, I note that H liked what you were wearing - GREEN! Love it that you stayed on phone to your friend - that showed H you were not prepared to jump to him and make him your priority - I like your work!!
Another positive - H agreed that he should text you more. It was disappointing about being roped in to fire at last minute but you did react at that point. Play it again ... how would a better response have been, coming from you? Try to think of one now, so that if it DOES happen again, you will be ready with a much more controlled response.
You validated his hobbies well after that - maybe that would be a good place to catch his attention and say that you may like to go with him sometime to see how he is framing things. If he can see the beauty in what he captures in the lens, then it would be good to see that for yourself?? Maybe then you could stay over with him, not vice versa?! Just a thought.
It's hard to say whether or not they want you to be the old you or whether they want something new. The 'theory' is confusing. My H told me that he couldn't go back to what we had and yet he constantly makes remarks to how I once was and how much he loved that. Do they really know?? I don't think so - it's all part of the alien fog.
I don't get the urgency to check emails all the time with your H - what's that all about?? He plays the romance card of driving by all the lay-bys and then pulling you in to one for a snog ... then 'ruins' it by running for the computer!
You are so controlled Rabbit - saying that your expectations were getting in a knot was a good move. I feel that it tells your H that you are respecting that he has 'boundaries' too but you are hopeful and want to have more with him. I love the pillow fight and the moggle fighting with the toes!! Yeah, been there, done that one!
I do think that we misread the signs sometimes and, whilst we DB, give them space and expect that they will come to us, if the signs are there, a bit of gentle encouragement in the contact line doesn't go a miss, now and again. I think that we should just draw the line at cake-eating, which is where the struggle begins.
Overall, I say a very positive post from you! Let's have 'more of the same' for next time. I feel quite sure that you and H are going to get your train back on track, Rabbit. The signs are good.
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
