First Piecing Thread

[saffie]

But if W would apologize to OMW, I feel like it would show me that she TRULY gets it.

You REALLY think it's about that? Feels to me like rubbing her nose in it. Sh!t, I am in the same position that you are but I think that is just a bit too much. Your W can feel bad about what she's done without that step. I don't believe she doesn't get it. But honestly, there must be a difference between her moral compass and yours because she DID cheat and she KNEW what she was doing at the time , and she DIDN'T give a rat's a$$ about OM's W at THAT time so why should she now? Feels to me that it would be about you seeing your W jump threw hoops to show YOU something.

I repeat, I live with the exact same sitch with my H. IF OW's H meant anything to him he would never have done it. What I have to worry about now is MY M and my R with my H and making sure the sitch that lead to my H having his A never repeats itself. If OW approached me to say she was sorry for what she had done I would probably do something unspeakable....because short of self combusting infront of me I would gain no satisfaction from it. The b!tch was calculating and she did the damage.....and she hurt my kids.....and if she approached me I would never believe she was saying anything honest to me. She KNEW what she was doing at the time. No apology needed. She showed me exactly what she thought to me by F'ing my H. I never want to hear from her or see her again. If I heard her voice it would just confirm she was still alive and breathing

For a long while I thought that I would like an apology from her and now I know it would just be insulting. How dare she think her apology would ever make me feel better about anything. Think about OM's W and how she might feel about that contact even if it did contain an apology. Urgh....it makes me shudder.

I know my H feels sorry for what he did. He feels sorry for how he has hurt me....and that is good enough for me. He shows ME and my kids how sorry he is. I think he was always sad that OW's H and kids were collateral damage but it would never have been enough to stop him.....and if he ever felt the need to have an A again I don't think he would look at it from another OW's H's perspective. When they go and do this cheating stuff they believe they are entitled,they feel hurt and are looking to self soothe for whatever reason........they really don't look at the bigger picture.

I am sorry if I speak harshly, but sometimes you have to let go and move on....even when things still rankle. You can obviously tell I still think OW is witch from hell.....I always will.......I had to place some stuff that I was still holding on to inside on to her, in order to forgive some of the stuff with my H. I take the blame for a lot of what led up to my H having his A....but that OW - well she was a piece of work - I would have like to say a classy piece of work but there was no class involved - just maipulation and greed, ( what woman abandons her own 7 and 5 yr old kids to take up with another man?).