Ok, I was thinking about this and something just isn't adding up--are you really saying that your libido was re-awakened by a pair of SHOES?? This sounds so odd! Are you sure it wasn't that, on some level, you knew you were starting to lose her and it jolted you back to reality?
Regarding the climax thing..yes I have had that problem from time to time. It is caused by resentments and negative feelings that go along the lines of: "Why now? He hasn't wanted me for ages and all of a sudden he does! Why should I jump at the chance just because HE'S horny?! Why is everything on HIS schedule??" Etc.
These thoughts ruin the entire experience. I'm sure your wife is still very bitter and hurt. Good luck with melting all that away; it really sounds like you will be successful. Just keep showing her that she is desirable and make sure she knows it, no matter how quiet and dull her 'thanks' appear to be. She DOES want to hear it!
