If your STBX is laying guilt trips on them, they need to confront her and tell her to stop it. You have to teach your girls to stand up for themselves even if it is their mother.
It doesn't come across in my previous posts but they actually DO confront her, all it does is make the situation worse because she is lost in emotions.
As far as them confronting me about my issues, the big difference is that I'm capable of empathizing with them and their feelings so I actually FEEL bad. She doesn't.
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Teenage girls can sense that dad seems to be a little more loving and supportive when they bitch about mom. Teenage girls can see that dad overlooks some things when the girls are "upset" by moms behaviors. Teenage girls understand that that playing the sympathy card on dad makes life work for them.
Be careful Frank, I know your a good dad, I get that you are being a concerned father, but I wonder if you may be getting played a bit here.
I understand your concern. Let me state that they don't get any special privileges and I continue to enforce my rules.
D14 still has to get off the computer to do her homework even if she doesn't want to. In fact, the past few days she has been initiating homework time on her own and then coming to show me that it's done.
They don't get any passes that they didn't get before. IN fact, I enforce more rules than I did when WAW was here because I don't have her contradicting me. I'm much more strict than she ever was.
