The adventure chronicles

[AFWAW]

...the question really is "What do you want and are you sure that is waht you want."

I want a woman that is going to be with me because she wants to be with me. I want a woman that respects me. I want a woman that's not going to lie to me. I want a woman that's not going to have outlandish expectations. One who is kind and mature enough to not use her emotions as an excuse for her behavior. The question itself is fairly complicated.

I think it best if you attempt to swallow your pride and ask yourself do you want to spend the rest of your life with her.

Easier said than done.

If you do not want to then finish the paperwork with the lawyer...again, your legal situation is about as good as it gets with her leaving your daughter. Are the bills still being paid? How did that new vehicle work out? Will that be a problem if she comes back? Do you know what other bills she may have now? Credit cards are usually the first thing to get maxed out. Has she provided any support for your daughter?

I looked at the paperwork today. The bills are still being paid. She is still paying for her vehicle. No, I don't think it would be a problem. I do know what bills she has. She still pays child support and has every month.

Have you really sat down and talked to her? Is the OM still there? Do you know who he is? Any of the OM? Do not believe her when she tells you she made that up. Through all of this remeber she is a liar. Sorry but she is. Ask for proof when possible if you want to attempt to stay together.

I don't think the OM is there and yes we have talked. I don't know what to believe at this point and yes I know she is a liar. The thing that bothers me is that she is trying to accuse me of lying and having the same bad behavior as her? She keeps bringing up stuff from the past when we were together. She has such high expectations and it's damn annoying to hear. So snotty and condesending at times. That is a big fat turn-off when she acts this way. I don't know the identity of the OM and she refuses to give it to me until she is back at home.

There are a hundred questions I think you should ask yourself and put out here for advice. In the end it only matters what you want. Make a decision soon...she screwed up bad. And for the record...you are not divorced so lose the FaceBook for now. It occupies time you should have spent studying for that stripe and spending with your daughter. Get a pencil and paper and rack and stack what you need to do today, this week, month, and year. Then do it!

I have asked myself a hundred questions and it's tiring. I wish it was that easy.

I know I need to make a decision soon...

In all of this never forget your daughter...confirm she is well, your W is not having her exposed to OM (to include talking about her OM, personal items in the apartment, etc) You seem to have slacked off on updating her thoughts...this is her life also. Try not to let it become "normal" for her. She is too young to lose her innocence.

I haven't forgotten and my main focus is usually on her.