if you are going to press the OM issue, press it with the OM's wife; if you are getting divorced because of her husband, shouldnt she know?
if you are trying to stall this divorce, start agreeing with your wife. take on the mantra, "your right. this isnt working out. i have realized i have not been happy in a long long time. i love you but you dont meet my needs." isnt all of that true, anyhow? so project it.
as i said a couple pages back, take the next 30 - 45 days to life live as if you are single. you are being cheated on so why sit around waiting for her to make the decisions effecting the rest of your life. start to re-evaluate your hobbys and interests. take on some new ones that do not involve your wife in any way. go out and practice flirting and being seductive. and most of all drop all relationship talk with the wife. let her bring it up and when she does just agree with her, "your right. this isnt working out. i love you but i am not in love with you anymore. i dont think i can get those feelings back, again." and leave it at that.
do you notice how she always is that opposite of what you are. you pressure she pulls away. you want to talk relationship she responds with I'm done. you want to ML she dont, you go to bed she gets mad. you dont talk to her and she wants to know why. LOL.
mimic what she has been doing to you and she will do the opposite just to push your buttons. this is something that has probably going on your your marriage for years. just now that the excitement of another man if affecting her judgement she is threathening divorce.
