Are you sure, PDT? OMW was very clear about wanting me to "drop it". I don't know if she's in denial or what but that's what she said when she called me.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
You need to think seriously about whether you want to continue monitoring their communication. What if one of those emails has some sexual details of stuff they did or were going to do? You have to be thinking about what such knowlege can do to you in the long run.
You're right, Kerry. I have only been monitoring our home PC because I do not want this going on in our home. W will be out of the house within the next week or so. That's when the monitoring will end.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
Are you sure, PDT? OMW was very clear about wanting me to "drop it". I don't know if she's in denial or what but that's what she said when she called me.
You're right, I forgot about that. I thought you were asking about initial exposure.
You're right, I forgot about that. I thought you were asking about initial exposure.
She's chosen to keep her head firmly in the sand.
Puppy
Yeah. I guess OMW isn't going to be much help with busting the A. At this point, I suppose all I can do is wait for the A to run it's course. In the meantime, I'll try to move on & assume that D is coming. It makes financial sense for me to put off the D as long as possible...so I'll "play nice" & wait for her to file.
BTW, our S saw the air mattress my W has been sleeping on this morning. We had been keeping the door closed so he wouldn't see it until we got a chance to explain things to him. Looks like we'll be having that discussion w/ him tonight. That promises to be absolutely heart-wrenching.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
Well, we didn't wind up having "the talk" with our S last night. W & I have to get our stories straight first. We're hoping to talk to S tomorrow.
And I found something unusual on the keylogger. I was just out for an hour & so and not only was W trying to find a keylogger on our PC while I was gone...but she was also snooping through my emails. Or maybe she was snooping through my emails to see if I had any emails about the keylogger???
I think she's desperate to either find the keylogger & disable it...or do enough searching until she's convinced there isn't a keylogger on our PC. She must have a big day/night of cyber-flirting planned w/ OM when I take our S to my family's house in an hour or so.
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Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
W spent yesterday moving items into her new place. I took our S to my family's house for my mother's birthday party. It was so strange being at a family w/o my W...first time in about 13 years.
I'm still having a real hard time w/ this. I know I'm supposed to 'act as if' but I find myself wondering what my W is telling her friends & family about our sitch. What is the reason she's giving them for moving out & breaking up our family. I guarantee she's not mentioning OM but I wonder what she's saying. I know...It doesn't matter & I shouldn't care. But I do.
This is so tough...especially as I look around and see things missing from our home....the things W is taking w/ her. And we're supposed to talk to our S today.
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Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
I'm sure I broke just about every DB rule in the book today. W & I were talking about having 'the talk' with our S. It turned into R talk and I asked how she was explaining our sitch to her friends & family. She said she's not giving them any details...just saying we had some problems, tried to work things out, & we're gonna seperate for a while.
I told her I'm having trouble telling my friends & family...How do you tell people that your W is leaving you & you'll only get to see your S 1/2 the time. Then I brought up her A...she again tried to say it was only an EA. I said that's nonsense. You don't buy condoms & go on a romantic date to a fancy restaurant if it's only emotional. Then I told her how many people are affected by this. My family loves her to death & now they're all heartbroken. I know, playing the guilt card big time...just like I'm NOT supposed to. But I was fired up. Then I said I hope her A was worth it & left the room.
It's so hard to hold back the anger when I think of her A & all the stuff she's done to me since the bomb. I know I'm supposed to act cool & collected but I'm downright pissed when I think about it...and I let some of those emotions out today.
Now that I got all that out of my system, I better start playing nice again...before she lawyers up & takes me to the cleaners financially.
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Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
And I forgot to mention that she plans on moving the rest of her stuff next Sunday....on my birthday. Yep..coudn't even make something like that up. Thanks for leaving me on my birthday, honey. Way to make it memorable!
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
