Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

Summary of discussions with Mrs. T over the past day:

Mrs. T's Position: "I need some space for a while. Space means less time together. Less time in the same house. Less time thinking and talking about the R. Just for a while. I don't care what you say, though, I'm not moving out and we're not getting divorced, and that's that! I'm not, however, going back to Retrouvaille for the post sessions, because it is just a bunch of high pressure tactics."

Thinker: "I'll give you the space you are asking for. I am out of the home office as of Monday. I'll be scarce for the next few weeks. I am not, however, willing to continue in a marriage with someone who is emotionally unavailable to me. I am not willing to continue in a sexless marriage. We are either proceeding to work on improving the marriage, or we are taking it apart. We are going for our initial consultation with the mediator on Tuesday. If you are willing, we can go back to counseling in parallel."

So the appointment with the mediator is on, and Mrs. T has promised to call around to find a new C and see if we can get an initial appointment with a MC for next week.

If we go back to MC, it will be different than last time. Our initial sessions started out with me saying "I want to work on the M" and her saying "I don't think I want to work on the M". If things stay as they are, the next session would start with me saying "I would like to get a D unless we can find ways to improve the M"

We'll see...