I'm new wondering if this works...

[BigJohn]

Guess who called me 24hrs. later CALMLY TALKING, WANTING TO RESOLVE THINGS BETWEEN THE TWO OF US, EVEN IN THERAPY, AND OWNING UP TO HOW PARANOID HE'S BEEN.

He has a long way to go, but I'm finally standing up to him this has shown results. THANK GOD. It's going to be a tough battle.

My first step is - stay away from him, and only talk about this stuff in therapy. He came up with the idea today, I didn't ask him. So I"m going to jump on it and stay away. No more clinging and waiting around.

Hope,

I'm glad to hear of this new development. I hope your H is sincere and that this is not just another ploy to get what he wants. So I would recommend being cautiously optimistic and even suggest you consider operating under the assumption that his motives may be less than sincere. Not only will this help minimize any disappointment on your part if it is ploy, but maintaining some skepticism may in turn motivate your H to work harder towards resolving things between you two.

You are spot on about only discussing your issues in therapy- at least for now. That will help with getting your H's buy-in on attending counseling.

BTW, congrats on winning the part in the play. It wouldn't happen to be a Shakespeare play would it?

Have a great weekend.