Can I save my marriage?

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Robx you are right. Very good advice. I appreciate everything you said. I do want this and of course I want my husband home. But I feel like I'm in a good place right now where I can sit back and keep doing what I'm doing and create the environment that he has seen in the last few weeks. I want him to be happy, and I want him to come back to this marriage because he actually wants to. I feel our marriage was built on sand and if he does decide to come home I want to trash that old marriage and build a new one on stone. In order for that to happen I have to continue to give him his time and space that he needs and you're right. No R talks. I'm going to leave everything up to him, and just keep doing what I'm doing. Its obviously working! I never thought I would ever say that! I don't want to get my hopes up too high yet, but its hard. Trent, I haven't been able to get a copy of DB yet cause I live in a small town Alberta, Canada, and we only have one bookstore and they don't have it. So the nearest place I can get it is 2 1/2 hours away. Hoping to make a roadtrip here soon!

Lostforwords, I agree with you I really need patience now. This is going to be a challening time where I need to work on that! I have been given a light at the end of the tunnel, and I need to sit back let it happen. I'm am usually very eager to want to fix things like "Now!" but I have taken a different approach this time. When he kissed me and said good bye yesterday, my old way about things would to have been asking for answers. We have this great talk, great intimate moment and then he's leaving..."So are you coming home tonight then?" Probably would have been my old way of going about things. But I kissed him back and said goodbye and wished him fun on his night at the hockey game and that was the last we spoke. Of course it feels kinda weird not to have talked to him yet because I feel like we made such a breakthrough yesterday, but I can do it. I can let him do what he needs to do right now. I'm just going to be there waiting in the end.

Thanks everyone for your advice! I appreciate it!