Is it time to start piecing?

[Hope4us]

GIMA, I saw that on your other thread at work yesterday, but the chit was hitting the fan and I couldn't reply until now.

I want to throw something out there for you to consider. Do you think it's possible that she's testing you now?

6 months after my W's A ended, I had one of those same talks with her. And I got pretty much the same comments. "I don't know what I want. Nothings changed". Kick in the nads? Yes. Did I change anything I was doing? No.

Your W has said she is still going to leave, but can't now because of the housing market. It is entirely possible that she's only saying that because she's still unsure and doesn't want to get your hopes up. So if the housing market is the case, and it was a big thing in my sitch also, you guys are going to be living together for a while. Why not continue being her friend, GAL like a mad man and continue the oh so slow reeling your W back in while expecting the worst?

That's pretty much where I was. W told me, "When S17 graduates from H.S., I'm outie. But because of our work situation and the financial situation of the housing market, I didn't have much choice, so I decided to stay friendly, continue to do things with W, both alone (what ever she would be agreeable to) and as a family, while continuing to GAL.

And ya know what, two months after that conversation, W started to thaw.

It was a long, long hard road and it's not for the feint of heart, but if your financial situation doesn't leave you much choice, why not give it a go? You had a good time with your W and kids at Disney and you got impatient and pushed it. And she's not ready yet, so she slapped you down. Been there, done that. We took the kids to Disney and had a GREAT time about 4 months after the A ended. Two months later I had that talk and got shot down. A year later, we're well on our way to recovery.

I guess my point is, it's not over until you decide it's over. And I would bet money she's testing you to see how you'll react to this news. How would you have reacted in the past to rejection? If that's one of the issues she used to justify her WAW moves, I would bet she's testing you now.

What do you want to do?