First Piecing Thread

[Hope4us]

Thanks guys. No one has said anything I haven't thought about already, and just let me repeat, I NEVER SAID I WAS GOING TO FORCE HER TO APOLOGIZE. It was just going through my mind that maybe when we're talking about it sometime, I would casually ask W if she ever considered it.

I'm sure we'll have some more conversations about her A. NOT because I want to lord over her or anything like that, but to me, until I understand everything I NEED, I won't feel like I'm healed. And how can our marriage move forward with the intimacy we both want when EITHER of us aren't getting what we need to heal from this?

Don't worry, it's not like I have a zillion questions still in my head, and now, it's funny, but things that really bugged me even a short time ago, no longer do. But as an example, when W claims she told OM there had to be NC, she claims he said to her "I hope you guys can work it out". Now that bugs the F*** out of me. And I NEED to know what W thinks about that. What a great guy, he gets to sc*ew my W for 9 months, taking our marriage to the brink of disaster, ends his marriage and he's got the nads to say he hope we can work it out? I'm sure he does. He's done using her and has already moved on to the next victim and doesn't want some rabbit killer bugging him any longer, so he's the nice guy and wants us to work it out? The guy needs his azz kicked in a bad way.

Pup, I for one, would welcome you to piecing. You, WDID, Kat and others have been my biggest supporters, but our situations are so similar that I'd love to help each other out with these kinds of tricky situations.

WDID, I hear what you're saying. I don't think I want this so much for me as I could frickin care less whether OM apologizes to me or not. He's the one that will face his judgment, either in this life when some LBS who has less control than I do takes matters into his own hands, or the next. But if W would apologize to OMW, I feel like it would show me that she TRULY gets it. Not saying our recovery depends on this one thing, not by a long shot, but it sure would elevate our relationship to a higher level.

Thanks for the comment Doc. You're in a though spot and I'm not sure what to tell you to do so I've stayed off your sitch for a while. I still read along and think about your sitch often and you know I'm rooting for you. Keep your chin up.

Ok, enough of that. Yesterday W told me that the dik at work that was having an A with the lady in the lab, was fired. Not because of the A, but some other safety rules he violated. And its a good thing he was, because I'd have probably been fired myself if he was still employed. Let me explain. This guy, who has a wife and 3 kids, was having an A with another married lady at W's work. It was pretty common knowledge around her plant. So a couple days ago, this guy was walking down W's hall and saw the EGF sitting in her office. Now I don't have any special care what happens to EGF, but this dik said to another guy in W's dept, "hey, who's the lady with the long black hair?" This other guy said to him, "you don't want to go there, she just got married in June and don't go F'ing that up". And the dik replied "who cares if she's married?" Talk about someone that needs his azz kicked.

The one good thing is that when W and I were talking about it, W is the one that said "I just never realized that there were people in the world that have no respect for other people, as long as they get what they want". WOW, now there was a revelation I could hang on to.

Last night, W and I took S17 to S21's college for a visitation. We got down there and went to the coffee shop that S21 works at, had some dinner, talked for a while, dropped S17 and a buddy of his off at S21's house and then drove home. A nice 2 1/2 hour drive home, talking, laughing, enjoying each other's company. We went to bed, snuggled, talked some more and then dozed off. An hour or so later, I wake up and it's apparent W is feeling a little frisky. A nice hour later we went to sleep for good . And talk about a good feeling. W is having her monthly fun, so we had to get a pretty inventive to take care of each other.

Boy how the times have changed.

Thanks for the support guys. And Jack, you're welcome to continue with the comments. I've not ready your sitch before, where is it so I can take a look?

H4U.