Been reading along but not had too much to add. Just read your missed messages. Don't feel bad, instead feel relieved that H did respect you enough to let you know he wasn't going to make the meeting.
That's true Cas, thank you I hadn't looked at it that way! It all seems to be ok now, we have exchanged a few texts this morning which was fine. I still feel like a schmuck, I forgot the assuming rule
I guess the thing with the assuming rule is that we can be inclined to pre-judge them on their previous behaviours and our previous experiences with them. I know this with my latest issue. I expected that H would now be in non talking mode and he's definitely not. I suppose that in itself has to be recognised as a step forward.
Hey ((Julia)) I agree with everyone else. Don't feel bad you missed his texts. He should have sent them before your meeting, that is what a friend would do.
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Big red stop sign needed here JCJ. If you didn't get the messages, how could you have known that H's back was playing up? OK, so he had a valid reason but you are NOT to feel bad. That would be reacting and we know that's a bad thing in this game!
The good news is that he says he will be in touch when he gets back. Ergo, he does not bear a grudge that he did not hear from you. This is a positive which you can keep front and centre.
Being women, we do assume the worst. It's why we react I guess, without looking for evidence or facts first. It would have been good if you could have chatted a bit before he leaves but you are now just going to have to be patient ... again, for a bit longer.
Hang in there JCJ. You are doing a marvellous job.
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