I agree with robx and C-bart on what a Nice Guy is. And, I am a recovering Nice Guy. Now, I don't know how much this particular aspect had to do with my M issues, but I am sure they played a role. And I do not plan to repeat the Nice Guy behavior with my next R - whoever that's with.
Mishka, that does not mean I turn into an a$$. Instead, being a nice guy v. Nice Guy means I am completely comfortable with myself, I know my self worth and worth to others. I do things b/c I want to do them, not b/c I have to so them or in an effort to get my needs met. If a woman does not want to meet my needs just as I am, then I don't need her b/c she doesn't really care for me.
So, recovering from being a Nice Guy does not mean turing into a jerk.
