Hey Blackie, you wanna know what would have worked on me? Well, I don't know if I would have let it SHOW that it was working but you can be darn sure that I would have replayed these words over and over in my head.
I think you should say something to her like this: "I know you told me not to touch you, but I want you to know that this is driving me crazy. You are so beautiful to me, I just want to be close to you. It drives me crazy to see you so beautiful and not make love to you. I think I finally realize the torture that I put you through--it is awful to see something that you want SO bad and not be able to have it. I'm truly sorry for ever rejecting you...a man would have to be crazy to say no to this (touching her lovingly)."
Ok, a little corny but that is what I wanted and needed to hear from H. People with an HD need to know they are desired. Either from hearing it, seeing it in their partner's eyes, reading a sexy love letter, anything to know that they still 'got it', LOL. Find some way to show her that you desire her. If she won't let you touch her, then give her a whistle one day when she's looking hot. Write her a note to find in the morning that says "you looked so sexy last night, I'll be thinking of you today". I don't know if these things will work for your situation or not, but just trying to get some ideas flowing. Do SOMETHING to show her that you think she's desirable. If that was a major sticking point and cause for the divorce proceedings, then I would think that you'd have to show her that this is going to be different before she'd commit to giving it a second try.
Good luck, it sounds like you are making progress!
