Thanks Honeypot. On D annoucement day, my W gave a list of things that need to happen. One of those things was there was to be no physical contact. I've sneaked in hugs a couple times. I think I'm up against the wall here. She doesn't seem to want it anymore from me. But on the other hand, one of her male friends told her I would be trying to get intimate with her anyway. "This is what guys do" he said.
I'm not sure why she told me that. I respect her wishes and don't try, but I wonder based on what she told me, is this further rejection that solidifies her resolve. I don't know if I should try and get rejected.
I'm sooo confused. If I make a move, she may get mad. If I don't she will think that I don't think of her as a woman. Her self esteem is at an all time low. She has told me that everything she touches turns to dust and she needs to find out why she can't satisfy her husband.
I don't think she will really refuse affection, it surprises her to be honest. I'm not a hugger but I've turned into one lately. I think she doesn't want physical contact such as kissing and such because it may distract her from her mission. A couple days before D day we were very intimate. She said she hadn't... well you know... like that in a long time. I need to find a way to get the affection back.
