My W called me tonight so the kids could talk to me. My youngest daughter was crying because she misses me. Had a nice talk with all the kids, then I told my W I was coming home a day early. She thought I would immediately expect to have the kids back when I got home, but I said "I know you might have made plans with them, so no big deal." She sounded off. She asks if she can call me later when she gets the kids to bed. I said sure.

So she calls a while later and explains how she has some plans already made with the kids for the weekend, since I wasn't supposed to be back until late Sunday night, but she offered for me to get them Sunday afternoon. I said thanks. I notice she isn't sounding right, and it's not just her flu. I finally asked "Are you ok?" She starts crying and says "No." I asked "What's wrong?" She says "We'll talk about it when you get back."

So here we go. I don't know what's going on. Given that she's been texting and calling me while I've been away, I sure wasn't thinking she was going to tell me our M was over for good. The last time she acted like this was when OM and her had a big fallout and they "broke up", so my gut tells me she told OM it was over and she's in emotional crisis. I don't feel I should be very supportive of her as she goes through this, but what SHOULD I do?

Of course it's also possible she was crying because she decided we're done for good and she's so dreading telling me. Last year when she told me she was leaving me, she was strong as could be. No crying, no emotion, just facts. If that's where she's at, she's handling it different this time.

I decided I wasn't going to sit in my hotel room and worry all evening about it, so I went out with the guys to have some beers. Had a great time joking and laughing, and I really didn't worry about my W or M much. I actually feel kind of numb about it all.

Funny thinking about how my life hinges on what is waiting for me when I get back home. One thing is certain though. My kids love me. They miss me so much, and are so looking forward to seeing me. Felt great to get that from them over the phone.