Your roller coaster ride is not ending anytime soon and to-date you have done an amazing job of doing absolutely everything you can. I/we understand how it hurts to show kindness and be supportive and to be rebuffed...that is something that really is personal and takes a toll on your mental state.
A very thorough and detailed website you might want to give a shot...rollercoasterider@midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com
Chin up, and don't forget take care of you and girls first and foremost, your well being is so important.
Michele H 41 M 42 M 16 yrs. Together 23 yrs. Bomb 5/16/09 D papers half complete