who has never cheated on her, who has quit drinking, is very involved with his children, who is home almost every night, who does nice things for her, who provides a steady income, and who has had a PMA for the last 6 months of the most difficult challenge of his life, then I cannot (nor can anyone else) "win" her back, whatever that means. And damm!t, I'm tired of trying.
I swear I'm going to just adopt you into my family or something! I frankly don't know any men that do even half of those things for their wives and with their children. She has no idea what she is giving up.
You said she doesn't work, does a little consulting, and manages to bring in $2,000 a month? I work a full time and a part time job and barely make that! What the heck does she do?
But those are all "nice guy" traits and although they're important, they aren't going to flick those attraction switches and that part isn't up to me, attraction isn't a choice and if the rule was that nice guys attracted the hottest women then you would be the prize. Women are attracted to the "bad guys", the ones that aren't tamed, that chart their own course, that are confident, don't care about other people's opinions, it's extremely masculine and that's what women want, masculinity. Alot of guys start off that way, very masculine, family life changes them, they become these responsible, mature, parent, spouse provider types and all these women they're with start having MLC's and start pursuing affairs with other men. They miss the masculinity and the excitement and feel they're being killed slowly by the boredom.
Point well taken robx. But, understand my "list" is an incomplete one in the middle of a rant. Yes, I exhibited those behaviors. But, I also began meeting my own needs, detached so that my happiness is not dependent upon hers, and took the lead on the discussion last night.
I am definitely a recovering Nice Guy. But, am NOT one of those anymore. I met a buddy out for dinner tonight, no wedding ring. I always stayed home on Friday noght for family movie night. Not tonight. Came home, went for a run, showered, then got dressed nicely, cologne, and walked into to the den to grab my keys. W had no idea I was going out - I said, I am gonna run some errands, then grab a bite to eat out. See ya. As I was leaving, my D6 said "Dad, you look fancy." Thanks sweetie.
