Our finances are still joint. W's assertion is that she needs internet access to run her business. She also needs her cell phone to run her business. She's been paying all the bills out of our joint account - including my credit card. And she brings in some income.
Have you talked to an accountant or L about this? I had the same thing and H took the money in our savings account, and what little was in the checking account too. They do things you would never expect. I think you should separate the finances at this point, her cell & internet should be paid for by her account. B/c she's moving out next week anyway right? Easier to have separate accounts when you're living separately.
It's not a matter of control, it's a matter of boundaries which are two different things.
Btw, are you still on for the meeting with friend tomorrow? I think that's an excellent idea; please keep as busy as possible and don't even TRY to do anything stressful. Things will get better quickly. I'm actually happier now than I ever was when married; my X was more of a parental type figure, criticizing me a lot and all.
