Unfortunately, being in an R with someone who is emotionally unavailable has a negative utile value, and the situation itself is inherently unstable, so...
Last night in a big discussion, Mrs. T. refused to attend further Retro sessions or anything else which similarly pressured her into working on the R.
I calmly responded by saying that we should then begin the process of initiating D.
Today I called a mediator. I also finalized a deal which get's me out of the home office and back into a company office as of Monday.
Mrs. T isn't happy about the sitch - accusing me of rushing into a D, etc.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.