Is this the end of my marriage?

[P17]

My wife came around tonight and we talked.

For the first in a while I think I am back on track.

I don't want to have yet another huge post so I'll be quick.

Meeting was strained. I didn't listen to her and I talked almost for 2 hours. Wasn't a great meeting where the listening was concerned but I had to get this stuff out that was bothering me. Kind of gave her both barrels. Again, may not be great but I had to say it. Got very little response.

Long and short of it is that contact will stay as it was before. My W got very upset about losing contact and though I had to push her to fight for it, she did in the end.

The OM will never be part of my D's life or any other OM that my W meets as my D doesn't need three sets of parents. She agreed to this.

The best news, for me, is that my W has still agreed to the separation agreement where we both just keep what we have. When she said that, I knew I still had a chance to work on my M. If she does stick to this (and it's twice now she has said that) then I will no longer need to file for D under grounds of adultery and have at least two years from separation to sort this. She actually said she would sign it tonight but I told her she needed legal advice.

My W did say that she wanted a quick D and I told her how we do that. However she can't file for adultery, only I can.

I told her a few things I shouldn't have such as OM having second thoughts (which she didn't know about from her reaction) and that it won't work out. Daft I know but I was on a roll and not thinking.

One thing she did say, which was actually nice, through tears was when I said I had fought for my D for 7 years and she said no, WE have fought for her. That actually touched me.

Anyway, it's done now. We agreed to try and get the trust built up and then build up the time we spend together from a few hours to afternoons to days. We'll just see how things go. I suppose this is good news at least.

So a mixed evening but hopefully one that will allow me to help recover my M.

I am not taking anything she says for granted until the actions match it. I'm just reporting on it here.