I don't know Dog... the triggers you're talking about sound more like stress and anxiety. And too much of either brings its own set of challenges.
I've heard depression is repressed anger. A trigger might be seeing your children's toys while they're gone and feeling an emptiness inside. A trigger might also be anything that causes emotional pain. I used to fall apart when I talked to my former spouse during the divorce. I could handle a 48 second phone call before my emotions took over. I learned to email instead. Talking on the phone with him 'hurt' me, wasn't healthy. It was a process of finding what worked for me, what helped me become healthier, what it took for me to be in the best place possible to make good decisions.
Another thing I go by for decision making is:
If it seems right, the answer is yes. If it seems wrong, the answer is no. If I waffle or can't make a decision, the answer is no.
And of course, the Four Agreements that are listed on my signature make life much easier.
I've found that simple things make life much easier. And that I am my own worst enemy. When I face what I fear, rather than skate around it, everything gets a whole lot better.
