Hi Laurie, My h father was sick for about a month, he was 94 when he passed away so it was kind of expected. My h and his father were pretty close and my MIL is and always has been very dependent on my h. We have his mother over for dinner a few times a week which I enjoy. Her and I have had some dissagreements in the past about her dependency on h, but we always reconcile. She is a very co-dependent person. She is 79 and has never driven so she depends on him for that now too, which I understand. I told her if she needs anything I am there for her. I am having a problem with trust lately, and have been bringing up the ow and the hurt that I still have. Because h still doesnt call me or doesnt want to spend time with me. He is busy with his work and has many friends that he works with it seems as if he doesnt care for my needs. The christian therapist that I have been seeing feels that unless H comes to see her with me, it is difficult to make any further progress. I still don't have much of a support system except my sister, but she lives far away so we talk on the phone. I dont know if Im going to continue with the class because the prof. said it is the hardest class at the college and I didnt do that well on the first two tests. He said half of the class failed and he recommended that some of us take bio-101 next semester, because it is a prerequisite. Hope to hear from you soon. Dawn
