Once the D goes through, I don't know that there is a whole lot you can say about keeping OM away from the kids. But your W already knows the offer to reconcile is there. If you need the child support, you probably go after it. I don't need it, but it would be nice. It depends on your individual circumstances.

I don't really know what to tell you about boundaries in your case at this point. Just keep being a great dad and find a way to become the better option over time. Leave the offer to reconcile out there and work on you. I can enforce my boundaries only because we are still married and the courts will back it up. But if our M status changes, then I don't know that I still have those boundaries to enforce.

Pray.

Kevin

Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...