It is. You just have to decide that you aren't going to be a doormat anymore.
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She's not one to take ultimatums well, she'll bolt immediately.
It's not a ultimatum. It's boundary - how you let someone else treat you. Don't be a fortune teller, you don't know what she might do.
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She says there is no way she can give up having contact with him.
She has no reason to, you allow it. She's walking all over you. What would your wife tell you if the situation was reversed?
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She is checking out how divorce would affect our children and how quickly she can take them and leave me for him.
While you watch and wring your hands.
Is what you are doing working?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
