What Jack said! The way you interact with WAW may well influence how D14 reacts. I'm pretty convinced that the kids follow our example. Also, I think that at 14 D is old enough to have the cause/effect pointed out. Once she sees it, she might be able to deal with it better.
I agree with you. Except I rarely interact with WAW, and if I do, they don't see it. And, if you read my previous posts you will recall that the girls are having their own issues with their mom because she is, as KerryK said so well:
Originally Posted By: KerryK
Try to look at the good side of the situation. Your depressed, crying, clingy, bed hoping X is teaching her daughters a valuable lesson in what they should not become.
And that is what they tell me - they cannot deal with the pressure she puts on them by her emotional neediness. I don't ASK them anything except "Hey you seem down, what's bothering you?" and I get the 'dump' of how much Mom did this and how much mom did that.
