It is walking a razors edge over a pit full of razors. Everything you learned not to do...R talks, ultimatiums, no snooping...now you have to do. And you have to learn when it is appropriate. Trust AND verify that your trust isn't misplaced...again.
You have to stand up for yourself...which is differnt from MLC standing up for yourself...and you have to back down, and know when each is appropriate.
For me I had to change my mind about my marriage being over and give her the shot.
Yeah...different dynamics...
I also didn't like Piecing forum, because it seemed to me...to many posters came here FAR too early in the process, and wondered what happened when things fell apart again. You know? It almost seemed like the Kiss of Death posting in here.
Pup, you got my ear anytime you need it, or think I can help.
As for the affair... That staggering number of WAS and WAS/MLC that have them...I think it is just better to prepare the poor btard LBS for the insanely high likelyhood of it, I just do not believe they should try to uncover it until they are mentally prepared..because even when they are, it is still like getting kicked in the nutz by a rabid goat on crack...repeatedly. : )
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
