Can I save my marriage?

[TrentC]

And you're right Trent. I don't want to push him away I want to give him time to realize and come home. But patience is definitely not my strong suit. I don't have any. He knows that about me.

Sounds like you have your first 180, right there. (Don't worry, it's my first 180 as well.)

I'd start drawing up some plans for how you want to spend the holidays without him in the picture. Can you take the kids and go home to your family?

Trust me, if he's expecting you to be mopey and depressed because you won't be with family, how do you think he's going to react if you say "I called my parents and we're going to have a big family Christmas this year!"