Just got a call from W. She had just hung up the phone with OM, who had sandbagged her with the call. She said she needed to talk to someone and I was the only one she could talk to. She said it started like this:
W: "Hello" OM: "Hi." W: "Uh hi." (didn't know who it was) OM: "Hi. It's me." W: "Ooohhh" OM: "Don't hang up." ...
Talking to me: W: "I wasn't going to hang up on him." M: "Well. You need to stop contact." W: "I didn't call him. He called me. I have not been returning his calls." M: "I understand. But this needs to stop for your benefit. Its upsetting you. What did he say." W: "He's upset. He's sad. This is so unncomfortable. I shouldn't be talking to you about this. But I don't have anyone else." M: "No. Thats OK. Its part of being open and honest with each other." W: "He had a life planned with me. Now its gone." (OK. I could have gone off on this one, but I didn't.) " He is devestated. He told me that he loves me and that he hopes I find peace. He said you are a lucky guy." M: "I know that." W: "I'm just sad. I don't know why I am crying." M: "I understand." W: "He just needs to find someone else. He will be OK." M: "Yes he will." <silence> M: "Mmmmm" W: "Its OK. You don't need to say anything. I just needed to vent." M: "Thank you. I'm listening." ...
Ouch. It is painful to hear how W hurts for OM. But I need to be the guy that is there for her. She is sad. Is there anything I can do for this? I know I need to coach her on what to do if it happens again, but now is not the time for that.
Any suggestions on what to do tonight? I am thinking of stopping by and getting a good comedy to watch together after the girls go to bed.
